So I have a question. If your parents are alive, how is your relationship with them? Do you treasure the connection you have with them? If you don't have a relationship with them, do you desire one?
Well I must say, I wish I had a better one with my mom. As a woman with a daughter it's hard to imagine doing some of the things she's done to me to my daughter. The crazy thing is I don't even blame her for the things that happened in my childhood but what I DO blame her for is not trying to fix things to make them better. I am not the only daughter she has and I'm not the only one that has a horrible relationship with her so I know it's not just me.
I've tried everything and nothing seems to work. Part of it is she won't admit there's a disconnect somewhere. She literally acts like nothing is going on and she is clueless to what I'm talking about. I recently had lunch with her and I swear I have deeper conversations with six-year-olds and they are easier to talk to than her. If you want to try to "fix" a strained relationship with your mother you can read this article that gives advice on where to start.
I just use it as a reminder as to how to treat my own daughter so I can break the cycle and make sure history doesn't repeat itself in this case. I hope if you are going through something similar with one of your parents you can do the same. Don't let it encompass your life and your emotions. Don't let it get you down and/or keep you down. Don't let it tarnish the relationships you have with others or the view of how a parent-to-child relationship should be. I'm hoping for you that you are able to try and I mean truly try to resolve the issue and once you've done that then you can throw in the towel. You can do so knowing that you've done everything you can to fix the issue and the situation is now out of your hands and in the hands of the other person.
If you aren't dealing with something like this be grateful. Be thankful that you have a parent that shows you your worth and how much they love and adore you. Be thankful that you don't have to go through life seeking someone to replace the spot that should be filled by your parent. Go to your parent and thank them for being more than just your portal into this lifetime.
Blessings and Positive energy to you all.